Friday, April 22, 2016

The SEAL Team Heartbreakers : What Makes a Man a Good Lover?

I'm always interested in the male perspective about things. So, I decided to ask the men of my SEAL Team Heartbreaker's Series what makes a man a good lover? Knowing they could be a little salty in their language, which doesn't bother me at all, I was braced for some graphic answers. What I got in answer to my question surprised me in some ways and didn't in others. After all I've known these guys for a while now.

We decided to do these interviews on Hawk and Zoe's sun porch. The hot tub is covered, but  just a hint of chlorine lingers. The shades are raised and a breeze wafts through the screens surrounding us, bringing with it the smell of fresh cut grass and the clematis that's blooming on a trellis just outside. I love the old fashioned metal glider I'm sitting on and catch myself setting it in motion even though I'm trying not to. I finally just give into the desire and rock while I'm talking to the guys.

Lieutenant Adam Yazzie aka Hawk from Breaking Free.
Just an aside. It's difficult to sit across from him and concentrate on what he's saying. Just being in the room with someone this gorgeous certainly boosts my libido.  Zoe Yazzie is a LUCKY lady.
 Back to Hawk:

"I know because Zoe, my wife, has scars due to a drunk driver hitting her when she was a child, that people might think that impacts our sex life, but it doesn't. I don't see the scars when I look at her.
And she definitely has physical attributes that I find attractive and–stimulating."

He flashes a smile and I have to take a breath.  Those pale gray eyes take on an intensity as he thinks things through.  He's been out in the sun and he's tan and fit. His dark hair falls over his forehead. The chiseled slope of jaw is sexy as hell.

"There are times when she just looks at me and says my name and that's all it takes. So, the question is what makes a man a good lover..." he pauses to formulate the words. "When you're able to look beneath the superficial and recognize there's something more than a meeting of bodies. There's a connection both physical and emotional that encourages you to meet your partner's needs and you get everything you want back in return."

Whoo. I'm fanning my face. A guy in touch with his emotions is sexy as hell.

Next up is Brett from both Breaking Through and Building Ties. He has the most piercing blue eyes. He's let his hair grow out and it's bleached by the sun so it has lighter streaks. He's dressed in jeans and a t-shirt that hugs his chest and shoulders just the right way. He has a little scruff along his jaw.

I need one of those battery powered fans.

"All Tess has to do is walk into the room and I'm ready. But what makes a man a good lover?" He lowers his eyes to his scuffed tennis shoes and smiles. "Tess and I have been through some dark times together. It doesn't get any darker than being accused of murder and shot by a terrorist. And she was injected with heroine by a crazed asshole and nearly died. Jesus, I really thought I'd lost her."

The emotion I read in his face grabs me by the throat and I have to blink quick to keep from embarrassing myself.

"When we first met she took everything seriously. Now when she laughs—it's the greatest sound and it—turns me on. I can't get enough of it or her. I'm gone a lot of the time, so the time we're together I really want to make her happy. So, I think what makes a man a good lover is wanting to satisfy your lady's desires more than you want to satisfy your own."

He smiles again and there's a kind of sexy humor lighting his eyes.  "It doesn't hurt that you get to reap the benefits of that selflessness. In the SEALs we learn a job worth doing is one worth doing right. So, I try to do my best in that regard every time."

I think I swallowed my tongue.

Flash is a blond too and his eyes are a darker more cerulean blue than Bretts. He's just returned stateside from a deployment and has cropped his hair short. It leaves the strong masculine lines of his face bare. He's clean shaven and I have to say he has an almost perfect jawline. Though he's not as easy to smile as the other guys, when he does it packs a punch.

I begin our discussion by saying, "I read about your difficulties with the rogue FBI agent and the cartel boss he was in bed with. I'm sorry what happened caused you to lose your place on Hawk's team."

"I am too, but I'm still a SEAL and I'm still on a team, which after everything that happened is a freaking miracle. Actually, Brett and I are on the same team now but we haven't worked together yet. I'm sure when we do, it will be just like it was back in the day. He's a fine operator."

"From what I hear, you are too."

He looks away as though the compliment embarrasses him, then grins and some of the cocky confidence, all of the guys I've met so far have in abundance, comes through.

"You want to know how a man becomes a good lover." He shifts in his seat and tilts his head. "My fiance Samantha's first husband was abusive. He didn't just beat her, he stalked her as well. She wouldn't mind you knowing that because she knows that was no shame on her. It was all on him. He was a narcissistic psychopath. He was killed when he shot through a door in an attempt to kill her and wouldn't lay down his weapon. He really believed that if he couldn't have her, no other man would."

He falls silent for a moment. "What makes a man a good lover is making sure your lady feels safe with you. Safe enough to explore what makes her feel good and safe enough that she wants to make you feel good, too. Safe enough that she allows you to try different things to please her."

When he looks up, I feel my face growing hot with a blush. And he grins again.

To cover my embarrassment, not because of what he said, but how his tone has affected me, I ask, "Does that include a little Chippendale dancing now and then?" I'm dying to know if he really did shed his uniform for her that first night out of the brig.

"Sam says I'm getting good enough to go on the road with them if I ever decide to leave the SEALs."

At five eight, Oliver Shaker is shorter than the other guys but he makes up for any issue that might cause in pure determination. It's written in every line of his well-toned body. He appears a little more self-contained than the others. Not that any of them are forthcoming with any state secrets. But he's quiet.  His warm brown eyes gleam with a look of keen interest. His close-cropped hair curls against his head. He holds his cards close to the vest. I can't figure out a thing he's thinking.

I start out by asking him how his wife Selena is doing.

"She's doing great. She's done with all her treatments and has finished the reconstructive surgery she needed. Her last check up was perfect."

"I'm so glad. It will be a real relief for our readers to hear that. And how's the baby?"

"Micah's growing like a weed and getting into everything in the house. We've had to batten down the hatches."

"I'm so glad. He's a miracle."

He nods. "That's what Selena calls him."

"Well, do you feel comfortable answering my question? This subject would be especially personal for you after everything you and Selena have been through."

"Yeah. Breast cancer is a fucking scourge." There's anger in his voice and pain.  "But we fought back and Selena won the battle." He pauses and his throat works as he swallows. "I never stopped loving her or wanting her. Even when she was bald from taking chemo and had zero energy because of the radiation. Even when she had no breasts. She was still my Selena. The hormone suppression drug she's on affects a lot of things for her. But we've learned to work around that."

"I think what makes a man a good lover is knowing that being a lover doesn't start and stop in the bedroom. It's making sure the lady you're with knows she's loved and desired before you ever hit the sheets. It's something that can be threaded through everything you're doing, whether you're just watching a movie together or cooking dinner. Making love is more than the physical act, it's the build up to it, too. A touch here, a kiss there, just listening when she talks and showing some interest in her creates a slow escalation that's well worth it."
He looks up and there's a clear conviction in his gaze. "I think foreplay is way underrated by most guys. And they don't know what they're missing."

 Wow! He's had me nearly in tears and hot as a sun-baked rock in a matter of minutes.

Corporal Callihan Crowes isn't a member of the team but he's in a relationship with Kathleen, 'Doc' O'Connor's sister. And he's an ex-Marine and gave a leg in the service to his country,  so I think he qualifies to be included in this blog.

His unusual blue-green eyes hold a cautious light as he studies me. He's done interviews with the press and even though I know him, he's still a little wary. With his scruff covered jaw and lean muscular body he's sexy as hell.

He dives right in eager to get it over with.

"What makes a man a good lover? You know I didn't have a clue when Kathleen and I first met. I thought I did, but I didn't, not really."

I'm surprised he's said that. Totally unexpected.

"I was all torn up about body image and so was Kathleen. She'd been shamed by so many people about her weight and I have my scars and the leg being gone isn't really something you can ignore."

He shoots me a cocky smile and I want to laugh out of pure joy because he's come so far.

"I have these friends. Julio and Hector. They gave me some advice about women and I acted on it, then I got so addicted to pleasing Kathleen and getting her—jump-started, I couldn't stop. Didn't want to stop."

I'm mentally fanning myself.

"I learned that my lady is a very visual creature. If I could plant a sexual idea in her  head, it just keeps churning away in there."

"And just how did you do that?" I ask.

"I shared my fantasies with Kathleen, shared the way looking at her made me feel. And I made sure she knew it was her that starred in those fantasies, that triggered those feelings. Only her."

"I'm not saying you don't need good technique to go along with all the talk, but being honest and sharing those sexual thoughts and feelings, sure ups the expectations on both sides. It kind of inspires both of you to please each other."

"So a man can be a good lover if he pays attention to detail and tells his lady what role she plays in his fantasies and desires. But then he makes it all about her. Because it should be." He smiles, a slow sexy tilt of the lips that shoots sensuality straight at me. "Then she'll make it all about him."

OMG! is all I can say.

Ensign Zach 'Doc' O'Connor is up next. And even though his book isn't out yet, I had to include him in this blog. He swung by to use Hawk's hot tub because of an injury and I've looped him into answering my question before I clear out so he can get in.

He's very masculine. His freckles and auburn hair may make him appear boyish at times, but he's every inch a warrior.  His Irish green eyes don't miss much.

"What makes a man a good lover?" He narrows his eyes at me in thought. "Piper and I  haven't been together long. And she's had some bad luck with men. I'm not at liberty to expand on that because it's her story to tell."

"She's had some trust issues, with good reason. But so have I after being dumped while deployed and then learning the woman I was involved with, got pregnant by another man while I was gone." He looks up toward the door leading in from the kitchen. "None of the guys know that, yet. I'd appreciate it if you'd keep that to yourself until I'm ready to tell them, if ever."

"I won't say anything," I promise.

"Thanks." He falls silent for a long moment. I don't rush him because he might decide not to tell me.

"I think what makes a man a good lover is patience. Everyone's always in a rush to maneuver their way to bed and get the deed done. Hard and fast has its place too—if that's what your lady wants. But there's more to be said for long, slow, thorough kisses and just as thorough hands. You know to extend the pleasure as long as you can."

I think I've swallowed my tongue again.

Zach's and Piper's book will be out in September.

Thanks to my SEALs, Hawk, Brett, Flash, Oliver, and Zach and a special thanks to Cal for swinging by as well. They are all truly heartbreakers. Because they're already taken. Darn it.

In case you're interested in learning more about them and their ladies, My SEAL Team Heartbreaker Box Set that includes books 1-2- 3, Breaking Free, Breaking Through, and Breaking Away is on sale right now.  1141 pages of romance, suspense, and action for $4.99.

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And in case you're interested in the other books too Breaking Ties (Oliver and Selena's Story) Building Ties (A full-length Brett and Tess novel that introduces Brett's new team) And Breaking Boundaries (Cal and Kathleen's Story) here are the links to all those. 

Read on 

And thanks for stopping by the blog. Any comments are welcome!!
Teresa Reasor 


Rue Allyn said...

Wow, a terrific post. Thanks.

Teresa Reasor said...

You're welcome. Sometimes the guys just break in and need to be heard.
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